The “Let Them” Theory - A Powerful Shift for Women with Celiac Disease

Living with celiac disease can feel like a full-time job - and not just because of the food.

One of the hardest parts? Dealing with other people.

You know what I mean.

The awkward questions.

The eye rolls.

The “can’t you just have a little bit?” moments.

Whether it’s friends, family, waitstaff, or workmates - it gets exhausting.

That’s why I want to share something that has made a huge difference for me lately. It’s a mindset shift that helped me stop taking on other people’s reactions, especially when it comes to my gluten free needs.

It’s called the Let Them Theory, by Mel Robbins. And once I started applying it to my day-to-day life, something clicked.

So, what is the Let Them Theory?

The idea is simple, but powerful - if people want to roll their eyes, misunderstand you, or make unhelpful comments… let them.

We spend so much energy worrying about what people think of us. But the truth is, we can’t control their thoughts or how they behave. What we can control is how we respond.

And when you understand it’s not your job to change people, it takes a huge weight off your shoulders.

How it helped me in real life

The other day, I was ordering a bubble tea with my daughter. It was from a place I’d been to before, but they’d changed the setup, so you had to order from a screen - no allergy options, no staff interaction.

I asked one of the girls working there if my usual order was still gluten free. She just stared at me and said, “I don’t know.”

Years ago, I probably would’ve walked away frustrated or embarrassed. But this time, I waited. I stayed calm. I let her figure it out. And she did.

Her attitude softened, she handed me the bottle of flavouring, and I was able to check the ingredients myself. Crisis avoided. Drink ordered.

And it all came down to a tiny shift...simply letting her have her reaction and not letting it rattle me.

Why this matters for celiac life

The truth is, there are always going to be people who don’t understand what we deal with.

They’ll judge.

They’ll forget.

They’ll make comments they think are “harmless.”

Let them.

This doesn’t mean you accept poor treatment or let people disrespect you. It just means you stop letting their reactions take up space in your head.

Because most of the time, it’s not really about you. It’s about their lack of awareness, or their discomfort, or their own stuff.

Try it for yourself

So next time someone offers you gluten (again), rolls their eyes when you ask about cross contact, or tells you you’re being “too careful”…

Let them.

You don’t need to convince everyone. You don’t need to explain yourself over and over. You just need to do what’s right for your health - and protect your energy in the process.

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